The day I wore that white dress.

I remember my wedding day like it was yesterday.
In the back of my mind it wasn't really a big deal because I was already part of the family and Tyler was already a part of mine.

But, at the same time, it was a huge deal.

I didn't have the fairytale wedding that I had dreamt of as a little girl.

But, it was my wedding. My day.

Our Big Day.

I remember standing at the alter and looking back at all the people there. All the people that were rooting for us. That had been rooting for us since day one.

We made it.

After the wedding. After my daddy walked me down the aisle and my parents gave me away. After the cake and the hairspray and the bubbles and birdseed...

After the party was over.
There I was, standing face to face with my husband.

In that moment, I realized that I had nothing to give him.

I lost my virginity at a very young age... to the man I later married..

But in that moment when I was ready.. mentally, physically, and emotionally ready to give myself to my husband.

I had nothing to give.

My heart was broken. Torn to pieces.

I thought back to all the times my dad had the talk with me. He tried so hard to explain the reasons why we "wait".. but I was young. I didn't really care.

No one does. Not anymore.

You see, in God's eyes when we sleep with someone, we are instantly joined together as one. We are in that moment married.
Take a minute and think about who you are married to...

Will they make a good parent?
Be a good provider?
Love you when you're ugly?

All of these things my parents told me to think about before I even DATED a guy much less slept with him.

And now, all I have to say is.
This sex before marriage thing is no joke.
We don't get to "test drive the car before we buy it"
That's not the way we were designed. Period.

Think now to all the divorces you've been in or you've seen.

Sex. Intamacy. Adultery. Pornography.
That's the leading cause.

For a long time I struggled with the thought that I wasn't "good" enough for my husband.

Had we only slept with each other. Those thoughts would have never invaded my head.
Had we waited until marriage...
My whole entire life would be different.

That's the way God programmed us.

To lay with one woman. To lay with one man.

I love my life. I would not change anything.

As christians we take sin too lightly.
We think that you shouldn't drink.
We think you shouldn't smoke.
Do drugs.
Listen to dirty music.

But we avoid the sex topic. We let our kids start dating when they're 12. We let our kids watch vulgar movies. We let our sister kiss in the backseat. We make a joke with our brother about his girlfriend.

It's not normal. It's sinful and blasphemous that we turn the other cheek to this because it's accepted by everyone else.

We are called to be different. If we blend in... how will anyone ever see the gospel?

Think about the day you, your sister, your daughter, your friend has to walk down the aisle in that white dress...

All that I am,
Katie ♡♡♡